Good interpersonal relationships between coworkers are one of the most important factors that build a good atmosphere in the workplace. I feel that we are happier with our job when we have friends in our office, and we are more likely to deliver better results – we have others to lean on and consult our problems.
The most important person in your workplace is definitely your boss, and having good relations with them seems to be crucial for your career. Unfortunately, sometimes your boss may seem like a difficult person to work with.
If you love your work and don’t want to look for something new, here are some tips for building better relationships with difficult managers.
The key to improving relationships with anyone – even your boss, is open dialogue and empathy. You need to understand your boss’s position – their particular work situation may be intense, they may have a heavy workload or may be missing information that is conflicting the information you have. You can try to talk with them about what bothers you about their behavior. While this requires a bit of courage, it may bring spectacular effects.
If he is passive aggressive, discriminating and mobbing, I don’t have good news – with this type of personality, they most probably wouldn’t want to discuss their behavior with you. If this is the case, you should report their inappropriate behavior to higher parts of the organization – for example the HR department. Secondly, you should set up boundaries to help avoid your boss taking unfair advantages of your work.
There are many reasons why the manager is not so great. The key to coping with this, is to identify the root of their underperformance as a boss. If your boss is a micromanager –wants to control every step of your work and gets mad if you take a decision of your own, there is a way to improve your relationship. Firstly, you need to show your boss that you are trustworthy. Keeping up with deadlines, reaching targets and service level agreements will picture you as a solid worker. You can even try to head off your manager’s requests by anticipating them and getting things done before they come to you. This may improve your work performance in general, and your manager will know that they can rely on you.
When you disagree with you manager, try not to react emotionally, and do not make the discussion too heated. Don’t make threats about leaving. Be patient and explain your stance. After an argument, the relationship between you and your boss may be affected, but you can calmly talk with them at a later time, when emotions have cooled.