Some of life events may be really hard to cope with, and we all go through different stages over a lifetime. The most stressful include, but are not limited to divorce, health issues, death in the family. Sometimes stress caused by personal life is so heavy that you cannot escape from it. You may be physically in the office but spending all your time dealing with personal problems rather than performing your job. Personal challenges may cause absenteeism, lack of concentration and drops in performance. Some of you may stand in front questions around how to keep up good performance at work when your mind is busy with unpleasant thoughts.

How do you deal with a situation when your personal issues consume you at work?  Here are some suggestions:

Take the needed time off.

First of all, make a decision about whether being in workplace will be really good for you, depending on what it is that is affecting your personal life. Your tasks at work may overwhelm you, and you may come into challenges when carrying out duties. Time for yourself may help you calm down, allowing you to sort things out. You will be back less tired and more focused.

Or… Don’t take time off.

Keeping up with your daily tasks at work can help you concentrate on something else other than the concerns of your personal life. If you are this type of individual, you may choose to solve more complex problems in your job. This may you help refocus and forget about traumatic experiences.

Talk to your boss…

It is understandable that you may not want to share your private issues with anyone. Nevertheless, informing your supervisor that you are going through hard times is kind of a basic thing to do. It will help them understand your behavior or a change in your performance.  Depending on your performance, this approach could save you from being fired; your boss may give you some time to recover or clearly set up priorities that will be easy to follow for you.

…but avoid being an attention seeker

You should not expect that the boss will take care of you in hard times. They may express sympathy but the priority of your manager is to assure that business continues.  Remember, stay professional. You may decide to talk about your personal challenges with your manager or colleagues, however, be appropriate in your conversation, providing only applicable information.

Ask for help

If you really don’t feel well and cannot cope with your issues, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Employers are concerned with the stress level of employees because it has grave impact on productivity. Employers often have programs addressed to help their employees. This may include psychological assistance or financial support.

No matter how hard the situation is please remember that you are not alone and your well-being is also in the best interest of your employer.